So this will probably be the first of many posts regarding my life and how I have coped with the last year as far as getting separated, divorced and being friends with my ex-husband.
The first thing I have to mention is that without my job I’d probably have to be committed. I work at a car dealership. I only mention that to tell you that it is the most amazing company to work for. I honestly have people there that have guided me through the toughest period in my life. There were days where I came to work and sat in my manager’s office and cried so hard I couldn’t breathe. He listened, gave me great advice and believed in me more than a lot of people in my life have…way more than I believed in myself. I have been there 8 years and counting. I was only 20 years old when I started and I have made countless mistakes and thought a thousand times that maybe I wasn’t cut out for it. Looking back I am glad I never gave up. I am the Business Development Manager for all four of our locations. It isn’t easy. The car business is stressful. We work so hard every single day but we also have a lot of fun doing it. Our team has grown so much in the 8 years I have been there and I am so proud when I tell people where I work.
Last quarter we started a professional development project where we had to meet with our boss to discuss our goals and how we were going to achieve them. Yesterday I met with my boss, Mike. I told him all I had accomplished in the last quarter (making new friends, graduating, reading a self help book, etc.) and what I planned to do this next quarter (apply for school to get my Master’s degree, study for HTML certification, and focus on living a healthier lifestyle). He intently listened to my plans and then gave me a fist bump and told me how proud he was of me. It felt so good. I don’t know that I could have that at any other job. Not many people can say that their boss is truly invested in them or that they take notice of the things you do to not just improve your work but also your life. I give thanks every day for my job and the amazing team we have leading our crew.
I think my advice to anyone that is going through separation or divorce is to throw yourself into all other aspects of your life. Give your job 100%. Find new hobbies or pick up where you left off on old ones. Read a book and get lost in the characters. Do anything and everything to stay busy but also do things that help you grow and find out who you really are. I know I lost myself the last few years due to all that I went through but my job has definitely helped me move on and focus on all the good that is left. There is so much life left for me and I look forward to growing and becoming the woman I always knew I could be.